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gracefully move beyond any setback and flourish

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Diana Reaves | Jun 4, 2018 | Photograph by: Roi Dimor

Do you feel like you’re prone to failure at every turn?  Are you discouraged or even depressed when the best-laid plans go wrong? Maybe it’s time to take a step back from your life’s hectic schedule and focus on where your process is going awry.  Perhaps it’s necessary to reflect on your goals and how those goals are taking shape (or not).

More than likely, you’ll discover that your entire dream has not shattered after all.  In fact, you may find that your projects and strategies simply need a bit of tweaking.  Don’t be so hard on yourself.  It’s actually quite difficult to envision an end result while also fully anticipating every single obstacle you’ll encounter along the road to success.


Aim High

Setbacks and outright problems are bound to arise as you take action to fulfil your dreams.  Some individuals are tempted to diminish a dream instead of allowing themselves to learn, adjust, and flourish.  Resist this idea, though.  Keep aiming high no matter what.  Your ultimate goal may, indeed, require a bit of flexibility on your part.

It’s so easy to become flustered when even the most minute of details is left undone.  Sometimes if you can’t completely check an item off of the to-do list, you feel stuck.  Remember: modification is okay.  Flexibility is a natural part of achievement. You would be hard-pressed to locate a successful woman who hadn’t met with adversity regularly.


Bend, Don’t Break

Honestly, “bending” implies an element of grace.  It’s not a quick or severe action.  When one bends, she simply recognizes a flaw or roadblock and works to skillfully and even seamlessly move around it.  She doesn’t throw her hands up in despair and forfeit the entire endeavour.  Flexibility goes hand-in-hand with dreaming the grandest of dreams.

When a visual artist works with metal, she, of course, realizes how beautifully the medium bends under heat and pressure.  Beneath a blue flame, she observes even the thickest of metals gently arcing to the desired curvature.  The shifts and loops in the final art piece give the work its unique character and statement.  Don’t be afraid to bend.

When you find yourself in the fire and under pressure, refuse to break.  You’re forging a path for yourself; many times, you’re carving such a path in uncharted territory.  Expertise comes with experience, but experience comes from your willingness to flex.  You gain so much from mistakes.  You learn you can gracefully bend and move forward.



In short, plans develop.  You may be thinking that your plan has failed, but if you really look at your situation, maybe a little flexibility is all you need.  Plans bloom, evolve, and even change completely.  Some of the world’s finest inventions and initiatives began with a single idea and original plan.  If you’re flexible, often, you’ll exceed your initial intent.

Miss Independent is here to help you assess your talents and help you cultivate a healthy, flexible mentality.  For starters, download our free downloadable PDF on “How to lead with impact”!





Natalie Hughes founded Miss Independent in 2017, to educate and mentor women and help them make their best career and business decisions. Natalie is an experienced business woman and non-executive company director focused on organisational design, strategy, growth and innovation. Her goal is to help you think differently, work differently and feel in control of your own destiny.

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